Thursday, December 31, 2015

The New Year!!!!

Hey everyone! So if you recall, I do like to change up the look of the channel depending on the season/holiday, and I know a lot of places have really wonky weather this winter (alliteration is awesome!), but the general feel of New Year's where I'm concerned is light blues, fluffy snow, and just a cozy new winter feel! Anyways, on with my blurb!

I don't know about you guys, but I like making New Year's Resolutions - it gives me something to look forward to in 2016 and gives me an opportunity to change myself for the good. So I figured why not let you guys in on what I have planned for my new year! Here we go!

1.Drop at least 30 pounds!
I know this one is really cliche and everyone aspires to drop weight in the new year, but for me it's kind of a personal thing. I've never really been unhealthy, but I feel like I could do better, especially in the cardio department. Don't get me wrong, I can dance for ages (shout out to all the dancers and thespians!), but when it comes to running, I am horribly unfit. I know there's a difference, but in Pan's mind, if you can dance, you should be able to run! So bring it on!

2. Start writing again!
If you guys remember a while back, one of my first blurbs was about practicing something you love, and mine is writing. Now, I have this other blog that let's you write stories and publish them online so others can read them, and I did that while I was in high school, and I've just had so many ideas to not write them so others can read them! 
3.Use my YouTube for something other than watching videos!
I've had YouTube for about eleven years now, and I mainly use it for watching vloggers and game content, and I've figured that everyone has to start somewhere, so why don't I start in 2016?
4. Positive vibes!
This is surprising for some people because apparently I'm positive and always want to see someone smile. Well, that's because I constantly put myself down. Not to the point where I want to self-harm (which you shouldn't do because I love you all and you're wonderfully beautiful), but to the point where I don't even see myself as '12 year-old with pigtails' cute. And before you start thinking it, no I don't want to look like a model or anything, I just want to feel better about myself.
5. Start looking for a part-time job and begin college!
This goes back to another beginning blurb. As many of you may know, I took a gap year where I just wanted to sort my life out and really figure out where I wanted to be in life, so the most work I've done is sorting cans and taking them to the junkyard and that's about it. Not really enough to support an education (an education in recycling maybe), so I'm going to really try to get a functioning job in society!
6. Secret!
I'm not really ready to put this out there in full detail yet, but I have nodded to it in another post.
7. Get a license/passport!
"Pan's in the '97 line and doesn't have a license? I'm 16 and driving by myself!" Okay well good for you, but I do have reasons to not have my license yet. When I hit about year 10, I put my education before everything: I only have a few close friends, been single since year 10, and never really went to and parties or social events with my peers. Add that on to the fact that neither my family nor I have the money to pay for another car and nowhere to park it and you have the answer. As for the passport, I just want to get out of this country, see the world. I was on a plane to Florida once and just thought it was the most amazing experience and if I could travel again, I totally would *looks to England*.
8. Do a little maturing >.<
GROWING OLD DOESN'T MEAN GROWING UP! However, I probably should act like I'm turning 20 in two years and not like an antisocial 14 year-old who plays too much Minecraft...
9. Hopefully make more vlogs!
Aside from the ungodly long uploading time and constant recording, I'd really like to learn how to edit and make more vlogs for you guys, granted you want them! Maybe QCwM will turn into vlogs...!
10. Start dancing again?
Okay, I wanted to give this a little more time to think about it, but I really miss dancing and being goofy on a stage! High school theater was so much fun and if I could go back to high school I would spent all my time in theater! This also ties in with wanting to drop 30 lbs since dancing is an awesome way to build cardio and lose weight, granted it's something like jazz or hip hop and not ballet. If you want killer legs though: BALLET.


So those are my resolutions! What are yours? Let me know in the comments and maybe share this with a friend!
And always remember guys: these things don't have to start exactly on midnight - give yourself some room for error, you can't change habits in one night! You have a whole year, so jut take it low and when you see yourself starting to slip up, just sigh and restart! There are 366 days in 2016, not all of them are going to be perfect.


Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

REMINDER: HAVE FUN TODAY, BUT PLEASE BE RESPONSIBLE! YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL CUPCAKES AND YOUR SAFETY IS IMPORTANT!

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

The Christmas Haul!

Hey guys! So this was originally going to be a blog post, but I decided it would be better to make it my first video, which is over on my Facebook page Marzipan!


Books:

Sprinkle of Glitter:

Channels:

I'm not sponsored by any of these people, I'm just a fan. :)


Stay sweet everyone!

~Marzipan♥

Thursday, December 24, 2015

The "Job"!

You ever get mad when you put the exact same stuff on an application as you sibling and they decline you because you don't fit some kind of mold? Same! (I'm looking at you, Sears Holding...)

Anyways, I tried to get a job. I applied for three different positions and everything and I have never been more persistent in my life. But nope. No tax-deducting job yet... which is stressful since I want to go to college next year. So if there is anyone who needs a cleaner, sitter, or filer - hi!

So since I can't find an actual tax-deducting job yet, I have decided to throw my body to the medical field and donate plasma! I understand that there are needles involved and the process that goes into it. If any of you don't understand the process, let me break it down for you:

In order for you to donate plasma, you simply go to your local Red Cross Centre and talk to the nice person behind the desk and they put you through an evaluation, and after the evaluation you sit in a comfy chair and they put a needle in your vein. That needle takes your blood and puts it in a machine and the machine separates plasma from everything else that's in your blood, then they mix you blood with a saline solution and put it back in you!

Of course you may feel dizzy and cold (normal body temperature is 98.6, so you can imagine injecting a room temperature liquid into your veins may be "slightly" cold), but in a few hours time, you'd be golden!

Obviously, there are some benefits to this: you get paid, sure, but to me the real benefit is to help someone who needs it. If I can help someone live another good few years or even a few months, it would be totally worth the pain of needles and the dizziness.

I'm not going to tell you guys to donate plasma and blood all the time, but I will leave you this advice:

If you can, try to help someone who needs it, and it doesn't have to be by donating bodily fluids: volunteering just an hour of your time can be a huge help for a lot of people, or donating clothes or food can really be a tremendous help.

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Tumblr Tuesday - The Urge!

Hey guys, I have a killer headache and looking at a bright red font on a bright white background isn't helping, but it's Tumblr Tuesday, so yeah! Let's go!

So the post I want to describe today is:



So I totally get where this person is coming, I've had several restless nights where I just wanted to put on some shoes and go out walking until  I got sleepy, either just around my neighbourhood or to a local corporate store (it rhymes with SmallMart..), but there are some reasons as to why I don't go randomly walking in the middle of the night:

-There are drug dealers living down the road from me (at least I think they're still living there. I hope not!)
-I live in a neighbourhood with old crazy people (sorry old people, but some of you are just bonkers!)
-I don't want to go to jail for suspiciously walking around my house.
-It's cold out.

So with all these reasons, you can see my predicament. Still, even though I don't want to go out while it's cold and I don't want to be arrested and my kooky neighbours creep me out, it's still a Tumblr post that gives me a giggle!

However, I don't really need to worry about it to much, as I have...



That's right: icicles and faerie lights! I've always had this fascination with lights, especially Christmas lights, so I look at them and listen to my fan/heater until I'm sleepy, then I turn them off and close my eyes and count to five hundred and BAM! I'm asleep. ^^ 


So this post was kind of all over the place and I wish I could make it longer, but my brain feels like it's leaking out of my ear...

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

I like this series! I hope I can do it for a long time! It's time for



Alrighty, this question comes from another little girl I help teach on Sundays, and she asks:

"Why do people fake things to get money or anything that's great?"

Alright, since I don't really know what exactly she's talking about, I'm going to use an example that I think everyone in the States can relate to: This wonderful thing we all know and love, at least we have to love it because we pay for it with taxes every year. Yep! The Welfare Program.

For those of you little cupcakes who don't know what welfare is, welfare is something you can apply for so that the government will give you an x amount of money to sustain you and your family. However, there are numerous factors that play into your eligibility for welfare, including your gross ( all income before tax) and net income (all income after tax), the size of your family, and your crisis situation which could be pregnancy, homelessness or unemployment, but the one thing people "claim" is medical emergency. Let's set up an example.

Uncle Joe works for the coal mines and has since he was 17, I'm talking good ol' Unc has really made a life out of it and he's well into his late 40s now and he's not looking to retire at all. Well, one day while Joe's mining, he hears a loud screeching and a mess of sparks and a mine cart derails and crashes into a support post and sends a big steel beam wobbling down over his friend Allen. Now Joe and Allen go way back, and he's not ready to lose his friend, so being the good man he is, he grabs his friend and pushes him out of the way in time and has his leg completely crushed by this support beam. After many hours of cutting this thing off dear Uncle Joe's leg, they rush him to the hospital and they have to amputate, there's no way to save his leg, so Joe now has no way of having a job and is forced to retire early, but oh no! Uncle Joe has a wife and a son and a baby girl on the way! So he goes to his local Human Resource Department and says "I just got laid off of work, I lost my leg in the coal mines, and my wife is pregnant with a baby girl and my son's only in the fourth grade." So he gets a check and is able to buy food and make bill payments and his wife gets a job after little Susie is born and most everything goes back to normal.

That is a crisis that requires welfare. Now, for the other side:

Mason works at World Mart and is lifting a heavy box when he slips and falls and hurts his knee, so he gets in contact with his manager and files an accident report and goes to the hospital and sure enough, he's got a torn ACL and a broken kneecap, so he's out of work and gets surgery done, but that knee causes him so much pain that the doctor has to prescribe him Oxycodone (Oxycontin). Well, Mason finds out that this medicine gives him a pretty good high, so now he's constantly calling into work to say "I can't work today, my knee's still bothering me". Now this works for the first week or so after his surgery, but then he's forgotten he has to make payments on his house and car and pretty soon, the bank takes both of them back, and on top of that, he's run out of refills, so Mason calls his local Human Resources Department and tells them "I have a bad knee and can't work, there's only one of me in my family and the bank just took my house and car." So now Mason is on welfare, and instead of using this money to get another house or car, he's going to the doctor and claiming intense pain, but the doctor doesn't prescribe him his fix and now Mason has to find a substitute. As he's "limping" along the pavement he sees a guy who says he can hook him up with something even better and gives Mason a small baggie of this pale brown powder, and tells him to take a spoon and a lighter and heat it up, suck it up into a needle, and it works "just as good as oxy". You can guess what happens then.

So let's evaluate these: Uncle Joe states that he's an amputee, his wife is pregnant, and has a child under the age of 18. Mason starts out that he has an injury, but over time becomes dependent on drugs and turns to lying and illegal substance abuse for sustenance.

That's what happens in a lot of cases. I'm not saying that everyone who is on welfare is a drug user or turns into a drug user; some of these people really can't work and do need a little bit of help from Uncle Sam, but there are people out who, to avoid working again and to fuel an addiction, will fake injuries so they don't have to work and essentially lie to the government to get money. Now welfare fraud is an actual crime and is punishable by law, how so depends on the state. Depending on how much you steal, you can be looking at a charge of felony larceny, aka grand theft, which can be labeled as a felony charge.

But as I said before, not everyone is a criminal; some of these people really do need help from the government. If you're a single mom of three kids and you're struggling to pay for bills and food, then chances are you need welfare. If you're a retired vet who has no family and developing arthritis and you have to choose between lighting and heating over bread and soup, chances are you need welfare. There are some people who really do need help.

Well, I think that pretty much sums up my point. Please remember: these are opinions. These are things people want my opinion on, and it's okay to ask for someone's opinion as it doesn't have to influence yours. And the people mentioned in the examples are just random names with random scenarios - any type of similarity is purely coincidental, so please don't hate me.

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

The Choice!

Hey guys! I'm not gonna procrastinate on this one...

So when I was in Florida with my mother a few years back, I was spending time with my grandmother and great aunt, and my (I think she was about) three year-old cousin was there. So my great aunt is playing with her and she says something funny and my GA looks at me and says "You need to have a dozen of these".

First of all, I know it's just an exaggeration and hopefully she doesn't really want me to have twelve kids because that would be very hard on my body. 

Secondly, I've decided a long time ago that I don't want my own kids. That's not me saying I don't ever want kids, I love the idea of having children, I just don't want to be pregnant with my own children. Before you call me heartless, there are millions of children around the world who don't have parents. To me, it seems like a smarter solution to adopt than to have my own for many reasons:

A.) I don't feel like my body could support a child.
B.) My mother had complications with all of her deliveries (true fact: I am actually her miracle child).
C.) With millions of children who don't have parents, it seems kind of wrong to see them suffering and not having a mum or dad to spend Christmas or thanksgiving, or even their birthday with, so if I can give that opportunity to three kids, then I know it'd be worth it.

Now I know what you're thinking. "Oh, she wants to adopt three kids!" and you're correct. The three kids I want to adopt are two boys, preferably brothers (I don't want to tear them away from the only family they have left) and a little girl. I also want my sons to be older than my daughter so she's got someone to look out for her in school and such. Also (I'm pretty much rambling at this point..), I'm not going to be the parent that wants to live vicariously through my children's success because I have achieved nothing and want them to be prodigies. If my daughter is into sports, I'll buy her a mouth guard. If one of my boys likes painting then I'll play him some Bob Ross videos. If my other boy likes to get on stage and joins theater, then we'll work on lines every night until he learns them. This leads me into my moral:

No matter what your child is into, be it a stereotypical gender role or one that breaks society of its cultural norm, it's always important for kids to have a voice saying "You can do it!" Even if it's only yours, a child will be so happy that you believe in them.

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Thursday, December 17, 2015

The Right!

Hey guys! Today's blurb is gonna be kinda short since it's really late and I'm exhausted. I'll make up for it tomorrow, I swear!

So earlier this week, and I won't name any names, but I am now the aunt of two baby boys! So it got me wondering about public breast feeding.

First of all I would like to say: if you are a new mother and your child needs to be breast fed, do not feel like you have to go to a family restroom or the women's handicap stall to do so. Your body is your own and if someone finds the aspect of public beast feeding erotic, uncomfortable, or generally inappropriate, then it's them who needs to leave.

Now, I understand that there are some states and towns that look down upon this natural and beautiful part of life, but not every state says that you have to keep it private, they simply give you the option. That's why even in states where it's perfectly legal, you still see family restrooms.

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

The Inspiration! (A Spiritual Successor to the Talent!)

Hey everyone! So people ask me all the time "Where do you get your inspiration for writing?", and the answer is simple: to me, inspiration is everywhere.

That's one great thing about writing. If you step outside of your comfort zone and think outside of your box, you can find the happiest things in life can also be the cruelest.


The one thing I love to do for inspiration is listen to people, study their faces and movements, and really formulate a story from that. Let me give you an example from one of my favourite movies - Avengers: Age of Ultron.



In this scene, take note of the look on Thor's face when Mjölnir barely nudges when Steve (that's Capt. America) tries to pick up the hammer. Now I realize that in the original comics, Steve can wield Mjölnir and that might just be a reference to said comic, but that's an entirely different blurb for an entirely different day.

Now, write down what you think Thor is thinking when he sees his hammer nudge. Is it worry, jealousy, pride, fear, happiness? When you can do that, then you can do something like this:

Thor looked to them from his seat on the couch, a drink in his hand and a smile adorning his rugged face.
"If I lift it, do I get to rule Asgard?" Stark asked, his hand firmly gripping the handle of Thor's mighty weapon.
"Yes, of course." He assured, smirking as he took a drink of his beer.
"I will be fair, but firmly cruel." Stark assured, placing his foot on the corner of the table and heaving in vain: Mjölnir remained. "Be right back.." he mumbled, returning with the arm attachment to his suit.

Now, that's only the part of it, and all of that was just from watching. If anyone wants me to continue with that I will! ^^

The other way I get inspiration is through tea, and different teas have different stories to me! Here are a few of my favourites:

Hibiscus tea with Peppermint, which helps with stomach aches, constipation/gas, heart and blood pressure, and respiratory and throat health.
Dandelion tea is very good at reducing water weight, promoting Liver health, preventing UTIs, and can even be used as a natural coffee substitute! 


Earl Grey Tea has many health benefits, including being good for your teeth, helping to improve digestion, fighting anxiety and depression, giving you energy, helping to prevent cancer and heart disease, weight loss,providing stress and cold relief, and keeping you hydrated!

Now, given these teas and their health benefits, I always try to work that into a story whenever I can, but drinking and even smelling these teas can spark an idea; a floral smell may give you an idea of a romantic comedy set in England's spring, or a spicy smell may give you an idea for a holiday drama set in New York during the December months.

So I guess the moral of this story is:
Play with your senses! Explore, take time to get to know your surroundings, and use these things to your advantage! The world is teeming with so many ideas to be found, but it's up to you to find them!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Friday, December 11, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

You know, I think Friday is starting to become my favourite blog day...

So today's question actually comes from a little girl that I help teach on Sundays. She asked:

"Why do people do drugs and hurt people?"

Now this question is an interesting one in the sense that I had an abusive father. My mother swears I was too young to remember anything, but I do have some vivid memories of the police at our door at 3 in the morning. But we aren't here for my story, that's an entirely different topic for an entirely different day!

Let's look at what the National Institute on Drug Abuse says real quick:
Information courtesy of the National Institute on Drug Abuse(http://www.drugabuse.gov)

Now if this is confusing to someone, all this is saying is that drug abuse affects you on the neurological level. I don't want to speak for the entire U.S, but...

For those living in Southern West Virginia, we all know that opiates and heroin are a major problem here. So opiates are an interesting drug in the way that they affect your brain, and since that's an area of science that I'm not well-versed in, you can read all about it here.

Domestic abuse is a far different story, at least for me. The short of it really boils down to [mainly] three different things:
A.) The abuser was abused as a child.
B.)The abuser has misguided rage.
C.)The abuser had a traumatic experience as a child.

Now there may be more reasons, but I am not a sociologist, therapist, officer, CPS Agent, or anything like that. So please contact your local CPS offices or police stations if you have any other questions concerning that matter.

So, before I go any further with this, I just want to say - I am fully aware that abuse runs both ways. Men can abuse men, women can abuse women, men can abuse women and women can abuse men. Have you ever been hit by a woman? Not fun...

Anyways, if you're still confused about why people may abuse, it kinda goes back to the question that someone asked me about letting kids play violent video games - children are like sponges and do not discriminate against right and wrong until the parent teaches them so, but even then there is no guarantee that something traumatic will happen and mum and dad aren't there. Sorry, but that's the cruel reality...

Well, that was definitely a question that maybe some of you wanted to ask but didn't feel comfortable in doing so, but never fear, Pan is always here to help as best she can! Leave me a comment, a question, maybe share this with your friends, and I'll see you guys for a very special Tumblr Tuesday!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Disclaimer: If you or someone you love is a victim of domestic violence or is struggling with an addiction, you can visit this website for free help. All the information is there for you and it is free of charge.♥

Thursday, December 10, 2015

The Wizard! (Mindless Rambling with Pan)

Hey everyone! So I was mindlessly browsing through Pinterest like I usually do and suddenly I came across the Harry Potter fandom and found this Tumblr post:
So in case you can't tell, let me explain this for you: this man is shown in The Leaky Cauldron in the third movie if I remember correctly. If you look closely, he is seen reading "A Brief History of Time" by Steven Hawking, while doing WANDLESS MAGIC. Now there are other instances of wizards performing wandless magic in this pub, as seen when the gentleman wipes off the table and stacks the chairs.
I don't have a problem with this, in fact this really piques my interest in the sense that neither Harry Potter nor He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named performs wandless magic, and the fact that if you read the books before watching all the movies, you know that there is an Elderwand out there.
So why is it that the two most powerful wizards in the wizarding world can't perform this type of magic? That's my question.

Also: he is reading "A Brief History of Time" by Steven Hawking. So now, here's my other question: in the wizarding world, are there things that magic can't explain, or is he reading this just as a luxury? Or better yet: was he a muggle-born that refused to let go of the science that the Muggle world had taught him?

It's just really interesting to see that background characters can perform a type of magic that two of the most powerful wizards couldn't, and one of them is grasping something that seems to be an irrelevant form of information in the world where magic could explain everything...

~Marzipan♥

Tuesday, December 8, 2015

The Relationships!

So before you judge me based on any relationship you may have, keep in mind that I'm putting myself on blast, not other people necessarily.... *Ahem!* Anyways...

One thing I notice during the holiday season is relationships. Be it boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, or same sex couples (which there's nothing wrong with, it kinda goes with what I'm getting at, I think...), I see them everywhere. And don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with a relationship during Christmas. In fact, I tend to notice that this is also the season for proposals and special vacations with your significant other.

Anyway, one question my mother and many others in my life tend to ask me is "Why are you still single? You're beautiful, smart, and funny!"

Well, let me start by saying this: I don't think I'm beautiful. Thanks for your confidence boost, but I don't think I'm even close to cute. Also, I don't think I'm smart, I just use common sense and hope that situations play out in my favour. Now for the "you're so funny"...the only thing I do is point out what other people do, and people find it humorous. That's it.

Now, the main reason I'm single is this: I don't want to be in a relationship. That's it, simple as that. And it's not that I want to be single forever or I've never loved anyone before, it's the fact that today's society puts such an emphasis on outer beauty: your hair, your clothes, your weight, your makeup...basically if you don't look like Barbie and have a body like Minaj or a Kardashian, then you don't fit the mold, and if anyone knows me then you know that I've never really been one to conform to America's standard of "beauty". Plus (this may be a bit of a bomb for some of you, so hold onto your hats!) I identify as an asexual, so it's not something that really piques my interest.

To me, beauty is on the inside. I could care less if a man had six pack abs or a six pack of food, big muscles from working out or skinny arms. And if you guys really wanna know, my ideal guy is very simple: a gentleman who can rock a three piece suit as well as a cardigan, honours his mother and father, and treats me like a queen. He'd also have to be a big Avengers fan.

Now, my ideal date is very detailed and complicated. Are you ready? Write this down if you need to, because here we go: My ideal date is...staying home and watching Netflix and eating either pizza or Chinese takeout under a Loki blanket.

So there you have it: that's why I'm single. Now for all of you reading this that are in a relationship, I'm very happy that you have found someone that loves you as much as you love them! 

There's no moral to this blurb that I can think of...Maybe..
Don't be pressured to be in a relationship just because it's Christmas. Take care of yourself first, find out what you want out of a relationship, and just be yourself! There's no point in putting on an act if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person!

There, I think that'll work!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Friday, December 4, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

Well, it's that time of the week again! Friday!

So today's question is a pretty good question and very seasonally appropriate!

What's your thought on handmade gifts versus store-bought gifts? And is money or gift cards really a "not thought through" gift?"

And yes: This is my opinion. If you don't like it then that's on you. Now, I think that a handmade gift speaks volumes compared to a store-bought gift. A handmade gift actually means that they took time out of their day to make you something meaningful as opposed to buying something effortlessly and putting it in a bag. 

Now yes, there are some things like laptops, iPods, and such that you can't make at a moment's notice. But things like socks, hats, scarves, cowls, shirts, pants, those things can be made and sometimes (cheesy incoming) you can just feel the love that they put into it. I realize that not everyone posses the ability to make a gift for someone, but in all honesty, I don't really think that appearance is everything. I've gotten gifts from adults and children alike that wasn't necessarily up to par on society's standard of 'beautiful', but I don't really care. And that's one of the glorious things about being [Tuesday's topic], you really don't care about physical appearances.



Well, that one wasn't as long as I was planning, but did it answer your question? I hope so!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Thursday, December 3, 2015

The Christmas!

Hey everyone! So I'm not going to lie to you, I didn't really do  anything this week... except obviously change the layout of the blog, but that's already gotten it's own (late night) blurb.

But if you couldn't tell, this is one of my favourite times of the year! I love the idea of fairy lights, warm drinks, Holiday candies and music, and just being around friends and family! However there is one thing I can't stand and that's the thought of a child thinking that they won't get a Christmas because times are hard and mummy or daddy might not be able to afford a gift.

This is the main reason that I always give at least my pocket change to the Salvation Army red kettles that are in front of most shops and shopping centres. Also because I remember as a child, most of my clothes were hand-me-downs. My mum(hi mum) worked as hard as she could until her health caught up with her, and even then I knew that food on the table or her medicine was to come before the new Holiday Barbie 2002.

Now...if there's one thing I've been noticing in the recent years, it's this: kids feel entitled to Christmas gifts. I don't want to be rude and parents: if you can afford whatever your kid wants, I'm not one to tell you what and what not to get your kid for Christmas.
But kids, read this carefully: the only thing you are entitled to is the love of your family. That's it. You are not entitled to an iPhone if your parents are struggling to pay bills, you are not entitled to a car if your family is living check to check. And if you really do want these things, earn them. If you are of age, get a job. Earn your own money and buy them yourself. If you aren't of age to get a job, then the only thing you need a phone for is calling your family and emergency services when needed. A flip phone, sure! iPhone, nah...Education first kids!

Again, parents: I am merely expressing an opinion. If you don't like it then you don't like it, it's not up to me to parent your kids. However, if there's one thing my mother and father have taught me it's this, which is also the moral of today's story:

Parents: if your kid wants it but you can't afford it, don't feel obligated to get it. Wouldn't you say it's a little more important to have a roof over your head and food in your belly than a $600 phone?

Kids: Christmas is about spending time with your family and celebrating [insert religious holiday here]. It's not about getting toys, electronics, whatever. If you want it that bad, earn it. You're not entitled to Christmas presents. They are GIFTS, not REWARDS.

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Change!

So in case anyone couldn't tell, the blog changes colour and theme depending on the season. Since it's December now, I figured I'd update to fit the Christmas spirit (you know, the one people get on November 1, 12:00 AM)!

Anyway, I bet you're wondering why you're seeing a blog post today!
"But Pan, it isn't Thursday!"
Well, I got some stuff to take care of this weekend, so I may not be able to post, but that's beside the point! The point is (and the reason for the blog title) is because I decided that two posts a week at the END of the week was kind of...uh, weak..
So I've decided this. Take note, dear sweeties, because I'm about to drop a schedule on you!

Tuesdays and Thursdays around 3:00 pm EST will be blurb days. I figured that we might as well have two blurb days so I can talk to you guys about my weekend as well as my week! Now don't worry, QCwM (if you haven't caught on that stands for Question Corner with Marzipan. I find that typing it out is really tedious...) will still be on Fridays, and I've decided that instead of answering one question every week, I'll answer two or even three, that way you don't read it all in one sitting and can come back to it if you so wish. 

So! Leave me comments, leave me questions, I read everything! 

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Friday, November 27, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

Well, at least I didn't forget to post on time this week! It's time for
That will never get old!
So for anyone that may be new here (hi!) or simply has no idea what this is, QCwM is something I post every Friday answering a question that someone asks me. It could be on the street, through an email, or even a comment on the blurb, so please don't be afraid to ask me any kind of question! This blog is about adulthood you know... So, on with the question which comes from my loving sister and she asked me:

Do you think kids you play violent video games lead to kids being more prone to violent outbursts, or is violence more internalized and most parents need an alternative answer than "My child needs help."?

So this is something I see pop up quite often, the whole "I don't want my kid to be violent so therefore (s)he will not play violent video games" thing, and I have news for these parents:
Your precious little gem is going to be exposed to violence everyday.

Now, a little fun fact for you guys: Children are very much "monkey see monkey do", meaning they will pick up and imitate anything they see as being a 'grown-up' or 'mature' way of acting, which is why you see a ton of kids like this
And yes, she's giving the finger...
Now, before anyone tries to bomb me on this, please take note that it is not up to me to parent your child and I am not telling you how to parent. Someone asked me a question and I'm simply answering it. I'd also like to say that no, I am not a parent and as of now don't plan to have my own children. Back to the topic at hand...

Young children pick up on every single little thing you do. From the way you speak to the way you walk, children are like little sponges that soak up every single thing you do, and they don't discriminate because they don't really know the difference between right and wrong. A flip of the bird is the equivalent of smiling at someone and telling them to have a nice day. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that they can't really distinguish the difference between right and wrong.

In the sense of video games, it's sort of the same thing. The less true and raw reality you expose your kids to, be it good or bad, the harder time they're going to have when it comes to fantasy and reality. Given the circumstances surrounding my childhood, which I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy, It was very easy for me to distinguish between my imagination and reality, but for most kids especially today that would be hard considering how much times have changed from '97 or even '05. Disciplining your children is seen as 'child abuse', they'll always find a way around parental censors, and for some reason a temper tantrum is a means to getting what you want if mummy or daddy say 'No you can't have the new iPhone Timothy, and I don't care if Mrs. Fieldston just got Justin one for his birthday.'

Now, to put it simply...
Children tend to blur the lines of reality and fantasy, so with today's games I imagine that violent video games would not be healthy for a young mind. As for the parents, it's not up to me to tell you how to do your job as a parent, but please be aware your actions will affect your child later down the line. Trust me...

Well, that was interesting! Be sure to leave me comments below, if you know me irl, feel free to ask me a question, or drop a question in my ask on Tumblr which is cutecoffeeandmarzipannn!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Thursday, November 26, 2015

The Deals! A Thanksgiving Analysis

Hey guys so I've been noticing a recurring theme in these passed few years...Black Friday seems to be starting earlier and earlier every year. Now for those who aren't quite sure what I'm talking about, Black Friday is basically the one day of the year where many stores across this "Great" Nation mark their items down insanely low. I'm talking you could get a 60" TV that was originally $1099.99 for $697.99. Now, let's do a bit of math...

The original price of the TV was $1099.99. I don't like working with decimals (ironic, because we're doing sales tax)so we'll say the TV is $1100.00. Now in case you don't know about sales tax because your home state doesn't have a crumbling economy, sales tax fluctuates depending on municipalities, meaning sales tax is different depending on where you are, in my case sales tax is 6%, so six cents for every dollar. So let's do $1100.00*0.06, which is 66, so 1100.00 + 66.00 is 1166.00. The original price of the TV with sales tax would have been 1166.00, which is money you could put in a college fund or pay a house off with.

 Shift gears to the marked down price.


The marked down price of the TV is $697.00 (AKA a car payment). After tax, that would be $738.82. So you save somewhere in the $430 range, which you guessed it, is a payment.


Bet you didn't think you'd be doing math today, huh?

So to get back on topic, the reason I'm so bloody angry bittersweet about this is because retail stores have seemingly forgotten that the reason many white collar jobs (doctors, lawyers, etc) get Thursday and Friday off (along with their weekend) is to spend quality time with their friends and family and be thankful for all that they have.

Retail stores seem to forget that their employees are HUMAN and need things like rest and food. But nope, these poor lower and middle class citizens have to go into work before the SUN on Thanksgiving and work until the moon rises. THE NEXT DAY. Now I wouldn't have a problem with this if they kept in mind that there is a mother who is desperate to spend time with her overworked and underpayed son, or there is a child wondering why mummy is at work all day and she has to spend Thanksgiving with her babysitter eating a fried turkey and watching reruns of The Proud Family...

So the moral of the day is this:
Be thankful for what you have rather than seek out what isn't needed. Material things like Televisions and game consoles are nice, but they will never bring you the happiness that spending time with your family will. Retail shops will be open next week, and please for goodness sakes, give these employees a break if you're a Black Friday shopper. These people deal with enough junk on a normal day and don't need the added stress of a soccer mom screaming at them because their humongo shopping bloodlust caused their register to lock.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
~Marzipan♥

Saturday, November 21, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

So I'm not gonna lie to you guys... I forgot about Question Corner Yesterday.
And that's why we're doing it now! Yep, it's time for...
Okay, so QCwM doesn't really have an official anything but a day yet, but I'm working on it! Let's just..get on with the question...

Here's something outside the normal questions you've been getting:What's your thought on "arts" being taken out of schools? By arts I mean things like Home Economics, Art Class, Choir, Band, Drama and even things like Shop Class. Looking back on the generations that had these classes available for students we seem to find a better rounded individual than what we're seeing pop out of High School today. Your thoughts? 

So if you guys didn't know by now, I was a theatre kid, I did dance, and sang in my church children's choir until middle school, and I will occasionally go back to help with any of their productions (I'm even the role of a teacher in this year's Christmas musical!).

So, my input on this is pretty simple: you can't expect these kids to learn if they don't have a creative output...

Art is expression. Theatre allows kids and adults alike to forget the junk of this world and freely express themselves in an amazing and creative way and they don't even have to feel guilty about it because no one can judge you (period. end of sentence) based on a character. But seriously, no one should be judging you period.

Now, my opinion on Shop and Home Ec: by the time you get into high school, the "shop" you go to is called Vocational School, where you can take classes like Masonry, Welding, Electrical Technology to name a few. However, just because you aren't in high school doesn't mean if you have a shop class in middle school that you shouldn't be paying attention (kids, always do your homework, never slack off, and don't drop out just because you hate going to school), in fact you really start to find what you're passionate about in about seventh grade, so take every chance you get.

So, the answer to the question is:
I think that classes like Home Ec and Shop and the Arts are very important to everyone, whether you realize it or not. It's a stress release, it allows freedom of self, and you learn a lot in these classes whether you realize it or not, and honestly (and I'm not saying this just because I am a theatre kid), I think the bulk of our society as we know it relies on classes like these. They're vital!

So that was interesting to answer! Thanks for crochet 2002 for leaving an interesting comment and remember to leave a question below for me to answer next time!

Stay sweet everyone!
~Marzipan♥


Sunday, November 15, 2015

My Favourite Things

Hey guys, so with everything that's been going on in Paris and all around the world, I wasn't up for ranting and raving and upon hearing about all of the disasters I've been a bit depressed, but we won't talk on that.

So I figured if there's one thing that makes me happy is the movie The Sound of Music. If you don't know what that is, follow this link and it will tell you all about it.

Anyways, in The Sound of Music, Julie Andrews sings a song about all of her favourite things, and the lyrics go something like this: 


"When the dog bites,
when the bee stings,
when I'm feeling sad.

I simply remember my favourite things,
and then I don't feel so bad."
So in the spirit of trying to cheer up, I thought I'd take this opportunity to tell you guys about some more of my favourite things! *here we go!*


School Subject
My favourite school subject was unsurprisingly English because it gave me a creative outlet and I was able to freely express myself through my writing.

Month
I don't have one specific favourite month, but I like the time of the year between July (because that's my birthday) and December (because of holidays!)

Place to Shop
I like going to shopping centres (that's called a "mall" here in America) that have stores like JCPennyHot Topic, and Victoria's Secret.
Bath and Body Works scent
This one really depends on the season: winter I like the Cinnamon Caramel Swirl, spring I like Coconut Lime Breeze, summer I like Cherry Blossom, and autumn I like Fresh Picked Apples or Cinnamon.
"Cocktail"
Okay, I have this in quotations because it's non-alcoholic. Remember I'm '97 line and the legal drinking age here is 21. So, I like to mix Strawberry Kool-Aid, Mountain Dew, and Pineapple Passionfruit Soda.
Starbucks Drink
Favourite holiday drink is the Caramel Brulée Latte, and my favourite on the normal menu is the Caramel Macchiato. Yum!
Baked Good
I am madly in love with tea cakes and I desperately want to make my own soon! ^.^-
Disney Princess

YouTuber(s)
Really depends on what I want to watch. If I want to watch funny baking or a week of two British guys scaring themselves, I'll watch Dan and Phil. If I want to watch a systematic playthrough, I will watch Markiplier. Others include Lucas CruikshankTyler Oakley, and Daz Games.
Video Game(s)
Sims hands down, but I also like to play games like Halo and Diablo III.
Saying
"The true secret to seeking the unknown is in the looking, not the finding. The journey is what matters."
-Vincent chow to Josh Gates, "Destination Truth: Memoirs of a Monster Hunter"

And those are some more of my favourite things!

On a serious note:
If what has been happening in this messed up world has made you depressed or angry or whatever, just remember your favourite things, hug your loved ones, and cherish the life you have because you have no idea when you will take your last breath. Force yourself to smile. Drink your favourite drinks, remember funny moments, but please do not wallow in your depression because it will not help you. And if you don't think you have anyone to talk to, please know I will always be available to talk, my laptop never closes, my speakers are never off, my arms are always open. I will not judge, I will not tell anyone, and the conversation won't even leave my bedroom. Please stay safe guys. There aren't tons of you that read this blog, but please know that I love each and every one of you and you are the most important character in your story and you might even be the main supporting character in someone else's: The Castiel to someone's Dean, the Watson to someone's Sherlock, the Merlin to someone's Arthur. You are important. You matter. Please never forget that.