Friday, November 27, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

Well, at least I didn't forget to post on time this week! It's time for
That will never get old!
So for anyone that may be new here (hi!) or simply has no idea what this is, QCwM is something I post every Friday answering a question that someone asks me. It could be on the street, through an email, or even a comment on the blurb, so please don't be afraid to ask me any kind of question! This blog is about adulthood you know... So, on with the question which comes from my loving sister and she asked me:

Do you think kids you play violent video games lead to kids being more prone to violent outbursts, or is violence more internalized and most parents need an alternative answer than "My child needs help."?

So this is something I see pop up quite often, the whole "I don't want my kid to be violent so therefore (s)he will not play violent video games" thing, and I have news for these parents:
Your precious little gem is going to be exposed to violence everyday.

Now, a little fun fact for you guys: Children are very much "monkey see monkey do", meaning they will pick up and imitate anything they see as being a 'grown-up' or 'mature' way of acting, which is why you see a ton of kids like this
And yes, she's giving the finger...
Now, before anyone tries to bomb me on this, please take note that it is not up to me to parent your child and I am not telling you how to parent. Someone asked me a question and I'm simply answering it. I'd also like to say that no, I am not a parent and as of now don't plan to have my own children. Back to the topic at hand...

Young children pick up on every single little thing you do. From the way you speak to the way you walk, children are like little sponges that soak up every single thing you do, and they don't discriminate because they don't really know the difference between right and wrong. A flip of the bird is the equivalent of smiling at someone and telling them to have a nice day. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that they can't really distinguish the difference between right and wrong.

In the sense of video games, it's sort of the same thing. The less true and raw reality you expose your kids to, be it good or bad, the harder time they're going to have when it comes to fantasy and reality. Given the circumstances surrounding my childhood, which I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy, It was very easy for me to distinguish between my imagination and reality, but for most kids especially today that would be hard considering how much times have changed from '97 or even '05. Disciplining your children is seen as 'child abuse', they'll always find a way around parental censors, and for some reason a temper tantrum is a means to getting what you want if mummy or daddy say 'No you can't have the new iPhone Timothy, and I don't care if Mrs. Fieldston just got Justin one for his birthday.'

Now, to put it simply...
Children tend to blur the lines of reality and fantasy, so with today's games I imagine that violent video games would not be healthy for a young mind. As for the parents, it's not up to me to tell you how to do your job as a parent, but please be aware your actions will affect your child later down the line. Trust me...

Well, that was interesting! Be sure to leave me comments below, if you know me irl, feel free to ask me a question, or drop a question in my ask on Tumblr which is cutecoffeeandmarzipannn!

Stay sweet everyone!

Thursday, November 26, 2015

The Deals! A Thanksgiving Analysis

Hey guys so I've been noticing a recurring theme in these passed few years...Black Friday seems to be starting earlier and earlier every year. Now for those who aren't quite sure what I'm talking about, Black Friday is basically the one day of the year where many stores across this "Great" Nation mark their items down insanely low. I'm talking you could get a 60" TV that was originally $1099.99 for $697.99. Now, let's do a bit of math...

The original price of the TV was $1099.99. I don't like working with decimals (ironic, because we're doing sales tax)so we'll say the TV is $1100.00. Now in case you don't know about sales tax because your home state doesn't have a crumbling economy, sales tax fluctuates depending on municipalities, meaning sales tax is different depending on where you are, in my case sales tax is 6%, so six cents for every dollar. So let's do $1100.00*0.06, which is 66, so 1100.00 + 66.00 is 1166.00. The original price of the TV with sales tax would have been 1166.00, which is money you could put in a college fund or pay a house off with.

 Shift gears to the marked down price.

The marked down price of the TV is $697.00 (AKA a car payment). After tax, that would be $738.82. So you save somewhere in the $430 range, which you guessed it, is a payment.

Bet you didn't think you'd be doing math today, huh?

So to get back on topic, the reason I'm so bloody angry bittersweet about this is because retail stores have seemingly forgotten that the reason many white collar jobs (doctors, lawyers, etc) get Thursday and Friday off (along with their weekend) is to spend quality time with their friends and family and be thankful for all that they have.

Retail stores seem to forget that their employees are HUMAN and need things like rest and food. But nope, these poor lower and middle class citizens have to go into work before the SUN on Thanksgiving and work until the moon rises. THE NEXT DAY. Now I wouldn't have a problem with this if they kept in mind that there is a mother who is desperate to spend time with her overworked and underpayed son, or there is a child wondering why mummy is at work all day and she has to spend Thanksgiving with her babysitter eating a fried turkey and watching reruns of The Proud Family...

So the moral of the day is this:
Be thankful for what you have rather than seek out what isn't needed. Material things like Televisions and game consoles are nice, but they will never bring you the happiness that spending time with your family will. Retail shops will be open next week, and please for goodness sakes, give these employees a break if you're a Black Friday shopper. These people deal with enough junk on a normal day and don't need the added stress of a soccer mom screaming at them because their humongo shopping bloodlust caused their register to lock.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Saturday, November 21, 2015

Question Corner with Marzipan!

So I'm not gonna lie to you guys... I forgot about Question Corner Yesterday.
And that's why we're doing it now! Yep, it's time for...
Okay, so QCwM doesn't really have an official anything but a day yet, but I'm working on it! Let's just..get on with the question...

Here's something outside the normal questions you've been getting:What's your thought on "arts" being taken out of schools? By arts I mean things like Home Economics, Art Class, Choir, Band, Drama and even things like Shop Class. Looking back on the generations that had these classes available for students we seem to find a better rounded individual than what we're seeing pop out of High School today. Your thoughts? 

So if you guys didn't know by now, I was a theatre kid, I did dance, and sang in my church children's choir until middle school, and I will occasionally go back to help with any of their productions (I'm even the role of a teacher in this year's Christmas musical!).

So, my input on this is pretty simple: you can't expect these kids to learn if they don't have a creative output...

Art is expression. Theatre allows kids and adults alike to forget the junk of this world and freely express themselves in an amazing and creative way and they don't even have to feel guilty about it because no one can judge you (period. end of sentence) based on a character. But seriously, no one should be judging you period.

Now, my opinion on Shop and Home Ec: by the time you get into high school, the "shop" you go to is called Vocational School, where you can take classes like Masonry, Welding, Electrical Technology to name a few. However, just because you aren't in high school doesn't mean if you have a shop class in middle school that you shouldn't be paying attention (kids, always do your homework, never slack off, and don't drop out just because you hate going to school), in fact you really start to find what you're passionate about in about seventh grade, so take every chance you get.

So, the answer to the question is:
I think that classes like Home Ec and Shop and the Arts are very important to everyone, whether you realize it or not. It's a stress release, it allows freedom of self, and you learn a lot in these classes whether you realize it or not, and honestly (and I'm not saying this just because I am a theatre kid), I think the bulk of our society as we know it relies on classes like these. They're vital!

So that was interesting to answer! Thanks for crochet 2002 for leaving an interesting comment and remember to leave a question below for me to answer next time!

Stay sweet everyone!

Sunday, November 15, 2015

My Favourite Things

Hey guys, so with everything that's been going on in Paris and all around the world, I wasn't up for ranting and raving and upon hearing about all of the disasters I've been a bit depressed, but we won't talk on that.

So I figured if there's one thing that makes me happy is the movie The Sound of Music. If you don't know what that is, follow this link and it will tell you all about it.

Anyways, in The Sound of Music, Julie Andrews sings a song about all of her favourite things, and the lyrics go something like this: 

"When the dog bites,
when the bee stings,
when I'm feeling sad.

I simply remember my favourite things,
and then I don't feel so bad."
So in the spirit of trying to cheer up, I thought I'd take this opportunity to tell you guys about some more of my favourite things! *here we go!*

School Subject
My favourite school subject was unsurprisingly English because it gave me a creative outlet and I was able to freely express myself through my writing.

I don't have one specific favourite month, but I like the time of the year between July (because that's my birthday) and December (because of holidays!)

Place to Shop
I like going to shopping centres (that's called a "mall" here in America) that have stores like JCPennyHot Topic, and Victoria's Secret.
Bath and Body Works scent
This one really depends on the season: winter I like the Cinnamon Caramel Swirl, spring I like Coconut Lime Breeze, summer I like Cherry Blossom, and autumn I like Fresh Picked Apples or Cinnamon.
Okay, I have this in quotations because it's non-alcoholic. Remember I'm '97 line and the legal drinking age here is 21. So, I like to mix Strawberry Kool-Aid, Mountain Dew, and Pineapple Passionfruit Soda.
Starbucks Drink
Favourite holiday drink is the Caramel Brulée Latte, and my favourite on the normal menu is the Caramel Macchiato. Yum!
Baked Good
I am madly in love with tea cakes and I desperately want to make my own soon! ^.^-
Disney Princess

Really depends on what I want to watch. If I want to watch funny baking or a week of two British guys scaring themselves, I'll watch Dan and Phil. If I want to watch a systematic playthrough, I will watch Markiplier. Others include Lucas CruikshankTyler Oakley, and Daz Games.
Video Game(s)
Sims hands down, but I also like to play games like Halo and Diablo III.
"The true secret to seeking the unknown is in the looking, not the finding. The journey is what matters."
-Vincent chow to Josh Gates, "Destination Truth: Memoirs of a Monster Hunter"

And those are some more of my favourite things!

On a serious note:
If what has been happening in this messed up world has made you depressed or angry or whatever, just remember your favourite things, hug your loved ones, and cherish the life you have because you have no idea when you will take your last breath. Force yourself to smile. Drink your favourite drinks, remember funny moments, but please do not wallow in your depression because it will not help you. And if you don't think you have anyone to talk to, please know I will always be available to talk, my laptop never closes, my speakers are never off, my arms are always open. I will not judge, I will not tell anyone, and the conversation won't even leave my bedroom. Please stay safe guys. There aren't tons of you that read this blog, but please know that I love each and every one of you and you are the most important character in your story and you might even be the main supporting character in someone else's: The Castiel to someone's Dean, the Watson to someone's Sherlock, the Merlin to someone's Arthur. You are important. You matter. Please never forget that.

Friday, November 13, 2015

The Question 2!

Hey everyone! So I figured as long as people keep asking me questions, I'd make Friday's post an answer to a question! We'll need a catchy name for it...

Well, that's about as far as my artistic abilities will take me. You know while we're at it, why don't we have a special everything for this? *transition!*

Nice italicized font! Well, this is as good as it's gonna get because we still have the matter of the question, which comes from one cheshirekat062191, and she asks a rather deep but good question:

Do other cultures begrudge different races as badly as Americans tend to do? Or is the typical American bigotry a direct result of a diversified culture?
This is a really good question and one that [not] surprisingly gets glossed over in everyday life.

Sidenote: I do know that there are some people not living in America that read this blog (hello Russia!), so feel free to read if you want if you want my take on American living. Also, feel free to ask me some Q's about life in the States if you want! ^^
So here we go! Strap yourselves in because Pan's about to drop some Sociology on you!

Most American's have heard that this nation is a "melting pot". Now, the sociological definition of 'melting pot' is: 

A pluralistic society in which people who originally come from different societies blend together to form a new society. 

To put this in simple terms, a melting pot is when people from different societies live together and create a new society.

Now, most sociologists actually refer to America as more of a 'tossed salad' than a melting pot. Let's look at a yummy salad real quick:
So if you look at this heanenly plate of health, you'll see lettuce, peppers, tomato, and radish. They aren't melting together (example: the tomatoes and peppers are staying separate, there is no tomper fusion), and this is how sociologists see America: There are many cultures and society who happen to keep to themselves and live in the same bowl, but they don't fuse.

Now to get back to the question: many of you now know that I'm a raging Xenophile, which is totally fine, but there are people who are the complete opposite of people like me, and they are called Xenophobic. Let's break this word down:

                           ξένος (xenos)           φόβος (phobos)
                       Strange, foreign                  Fear

So to put it simply, yes Americans are xenophobic. If I had to guess why, it's probably because they're so used to seeing people that are like them, and whenever they see something out of their norm it freaks them out. But America isn't the only country like this, many Asian cultures are likely to stare at people who are thick and have dark skin because they're used to seeing slim people with pale skin.

Well, that was fun! Be sure to keep he questions coming and next I'll see you guys next week!

Stay sweet everyone!

Thursday, November 12, 2015

The Cup!

So I've never really been one to rant and rave on the internet, but...

I fail to see why this
is such a big problem for some people. I mean to me, it's holiday enough for me, but to be totally honest, if you're really getting that worked up over a holiday cup because it's declaring a "war on Christmas" or it simply doesn't meet your unrealistically tacky expectations of 'festive', you have a bit of a problem. Christmas is the time of giving, not complaining about your $4.75 Grande Caramel Macchiato just because it's something different.

Personally, I think it's a very nice holiday cup, and when you're finished with your coffee, just rinse it out and put your own holiday design, it's not that hard to draw a snowman and paint it in. Or better yet, just be thankful you have the funds to be able to get a cup of coffee! There are some people this holiday season who will be thankful for a clean glass of water even, yet you complain about a red cup...

So the moral of the story is...
There is no moral and if you're really that upset about a simple cup, then you need to reevaluate your life.


Friday, November 6, 2015

The Question!

So I took to Instagram and Facebook and asked you guys to ask me some questions, and one question I got was from crochet2002 asking:

How do you stay true to self when the world wants us to conform to its ideals of normal?

Now, I don't like to speak for everyone, so I'm just going to answer this in my own perspective and you can tell me what you think in the comments. That being said, let's consider a few facts about me:

A.) I have always loved culture.
B.) My favourite genre of music is in another language.
C.) I am as stubborn as my mother. (hi mum)

Now...story time:

I have always been one to follow my own way. For as long as I can remember, I've never been one to conform to America's ideas of "normal" (mainly because they've never been normal to me). The greatest story I have goes back to kindergarten.
You know how most kindergarten classrooms have a kitchen set? You know, with a window, a sink, and a refrigerator what has plastic eggs, lettuce, and a teddy bear in it? Then you have the three best friends that like to always play "House", with a mum, a dad, and a baby.
When recess rolled around, my friends and I immediately ran to the wooden kitchen. "Okay, Marzipan*, you be the mom and I'll be the dad, and Britney* can be the baby." My friend Austin* told me. "Okay, I'm going to work now-"
"Now hang on," I interjected. "why do I have to be a stay-at-home mom? Why can't I go to work?" I demanded. Half of the class fell silent.
"Because that's what mom's do, they stay home and watch over the baby and cook dinner." He said. Keep in mind this is kindergarten, so I was probably like four or five.
"Well, my mom is at the hospital right now taking care of people. She doesn't stay home unless she's really really sick."
"But Britney can't stay home by herself!"
"She likes lettuce and eggs and be sure to put her in her bed so she can sleep, now if you're done I've gotta go be a police officer." And I walked off.
Dumbfounded, little Austin looked toward the teacher and I remember just hearing her laugh and then, a very faint squeaky voice... "...Wahhh...?" 
And that's the story of the first time I ever did something out of the norm and smashed the stereotypical gender roles at age five.

So the moral of the story is this:
Be who you feel comfortable being. Don't let society tell you what is right and what is wrong, and don't feel pressure to be perfect in a world that sees perfection in a magazine rather than in the heart. You are your own canvas who is free to paint whatever picture you want.

This was a really fun question to think about, and I really enjoyed answering it! Leave me some more and we might be able to make this a weekly thing!

Stay sweet everyone!